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Back to School Tips for Parents Who Are Separated

Back to school means back to basics. No more flexible schedules and summertime fun. It is back to homework, projects, extracurricular activities, and parent teacher conferences. It is imperative that you and the other parent try and get on the same page before school starts. The key is to try and co-parent and be proactive rather than reactive.

  • Tip #1: Get the school calendar and your parenting plan (if you have one) and start looking at important dates and exchange same with the other parent.
  • Tip #2: Be involved. Don’t let one parent do it all. Most frustration lies when one parent carries all the weight and burden when it comes to academics.
  • Tip #3: Make sure you are on all school forms and have access to the school portal. You should never have to ask the other parent for school information. Do your own homework.
  • Tip #4: Communicate with the other parent about the child’s school performance. Discuss homework and projects. A simple text can go a long way.
  • Tip #5: Keep consistent rules at home: You both need to have a united front when it comes to discipline. A simple message explaining why your child was punished to the other parent and confirmation from the other parent that they will carry on the punishment will speak volumes to your child. It will show that you both communicate with each other and that rules must be followed.
  • Tip #6: Split the supply and uniform list. Be involved where you can. It is always a good way to bond with your child buying school supplies or uniforms or a back to school haircut.

The goal is to have your child not feel the animosity between you and the other parent. Let them be able to thrive in school and in extracurriculars without the added stress. Addressing these matters now will alleviate some arguments and frustration in the future.